The more you rob men of dignity, the more dangerous they are.”Men make up 95 per cent of FTSE CEOs, but also 95 per cent of the prison population.
They are three times more likely than women to be frequent drug users.
A publicity campaign, yes, but in sharing questions like #isitokforguys… Interviewees included a cage fighter who breaks down over his brother’s suicide and gang members who discussed the voids left by absent or disappointing male role models.
But being urged to ‘man up’, seems to have left many decisively down: suicide is the biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK. Strong and silent stereotypes are being replaced with more diverse and fulfilling ways of being men.
In a post-feminist world, traditionally male instincts to toil, protect and provide are being thwarted left, right and centre. The Good Men Project, a website that publishes articles about “what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century”, says that it receives more than 5 million visitors a month: testimony perhaps to how many men care about how their behaviour as men impacts their lives and others’.“There are lots of different ways to be a man these days: we’re not having to conform to stereotypes as much any more,” says Samuels.
Leading the way in music is Frank Ocean, who came out as gay to the macho world of rap and R&B in 2012.
Even some stars of contemporary hip-hop are rejecting the genre’s hyper-masculine traditions; financial wealth is no longer the sole proof of achievement, and vulnerability gets discussed too.
It’s only when you reach the upper echelons that you find the people with the real power – a few men in a system that impacts all of the women and all of the men below that.
Looking at educational attainment, rates of mental health problems and incarceration rates, I think: where is it, exactly, that men have it so good?
“People didn’t laugh or think less of me,” he wrote, “it was the opposite. Perry wrote that art saved him from the “trunkful of angry masculinity” he was carrying.
They respected me for letting off the pressure cooker of emotion and for letting the mask slip.”Meanwhile, boxer Anthony Joshua has teamed up with men’s fragrance brand Lynx to raise awareness of male insecurities by answering some of the most-searched questions about the subject on Google. He has also presented several TV series on the subject.
It’s an underreported fact that almost twice as many men than women are victims of violence.“Society doesn’t differentiate between men and patriarchy,” says Nathan Roberts, chief executive of A Band of Brothers, a charity that helps young men who have been involved in the criminal justice system through personal development and community building, particularly rites of passage.
“But the young men we work with don’t have a great deal of privilege.
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